Crys--we once told the Mother that if she ever needed to live with someone it could not be us. we agree that a "good" long distance relationship is way better than a bad close by one. No way can we be near her for very long. have tried to tell myself they are old and can't hurt us-----yeah right---her tongue and attitude hurt worse than anything physical. they always did--would rather the physical than emotional......words destroy. they burn a hole in the soul.

Sannah----no, no concern for colds or surgery. none. but then, it's not surprising. never had, never will.....
guilt because we "should"---we are the oldest of 6. not the "good" one to say the least right now.