I tried to quit drinking on my own. I too was a secret closet drinker. When I finally admitted I had a problem, all my friends and co-workers were stunned. But I couldn't do it. For me it took two rehabs and ongoing support.

I do go to AA and find it tremendously helpful. I'm not at all religious, in fact I tend to be a bit anti-religion due to my childhood, so the God talk bothered me a bit at first, until I got my head around the concept of a higher power of my own understanding, I basically used the collective strength of AA members as my higher power, since they were staying sober and I wasn't.

Women for sobriety has been mentioned as an alternative to AA. I've been to a couple of their meetings and thought they were ok, but there aren't very many meetings around where I am, so AA is mainly it for me.

Another resource you might want to consider is smartrecovery.org. It's non 12 step based, and takes a very psychological approach towards dealing with addictions. They have community forums like PC does where you can post and they host on-line meetings. I know a guy from another forum, who is trying to quit drinking and he's finding them very helpful.

Remember you're not alone in this, we're all here to support you.

--splitimage