I'm not sure what is meant by "giving up control" to your T--- I don't give my T any "control" over me and mine. My T and I try to work together in therapy. Generally I control the way things are going--well, sometimes an insider does---there is a plan and we discuss it, but if something else comes up that needs to be dealt with we do.

My T doesn't tell me what another says IF the other wants it kept confidential. I am asked to not listen so they can talk. She treats each part as a person and respects the confidentiality of what is said. I have asked in the past "what did she say" and my T says "when she is ready she will tell you." or "have you asked her?" If I am not co-concious with that insider, then I have to wait until she is willing to talk to me.

You are doing fine. It's hard to trust, but try to understand that your T's have your best interest in mind AND if for any reason you are not comfortable with what they say or do--TELL THEM. They are NOT all knowing.

Just my two cents for what it is worth--and right now, probly not a whole lot.
wi