((((((((( Poohbear13 ))))))))))

After reading your post and after listening to the 'tender responses', well..., it just set me to feeling very sad for you and it caused me to also wish for comfort for you.

It reminded me again, of the process, and how it is very important to have a safe place to put the scarry (or any other things/feelings) until you can get back together with your T. In the meantime cuddling with Chole, colouring, gazing at clouds is the very best thing to do. Maybe having some popcorn together, if she sits nicely so she doesn't choke.

It is really 'real' and it is not made up and there are reasons but right now all you have to do is rest and play knowing full well everything will be okay soon. Sometimes, in a really tender whisper voice, I say, outloud, shhhh shhh shhh, just like a caregiver might do for someone afraid. Oh, yea and I rock gently.

Hope you feel more calm soon.