Everyone needs a mom. Moms in the perfect sense, in a perfect world are always there for us and teach us how to mother our own children. When we don't get that, we don't know what to do with our own kids. Its so freaking painful. My mom was a basket case when I was young, amazing she didn't accidentally leave me someplace, she was so spaced out with her depression. I am a great believer that family does not have to be biological. I have found several substitute moms who found me to be a delightful addition to their family. This is where I started to learn how to love and hug my children. I get my hugs from women who have enough love in their heart for another "child" and who teach by example. I forgave my mom for her inadequacies and in the process, I discovered what an awesome mother I am. Think of Mother's Day as one of those Hallmark days where businesses bring in big bucks. It has nothing to do with the real world. Truth of the matter is that it dosen't matter who becomes your mom, only that you realize you need one. Believe me, if you are open to finding a mentor-mom, you may be pleasantly surprised at how much love you have in your heart.