"Not all spanked children are abused, but all abused children were spanked."

I have never had to hit, spank, or do any physical punishment to have my children behave. Now they are great teenagers, they do good behavior because they realize that good behavior will get more attention than bad. Since I show them respect, since they were babies, they show me and others respect now.

I know personally my friends who were spanked, just learned to do bad behaviors so they wouldn't get caught.

We keep talking about the good old days. One hundred years ago parents were allowed to kill their children if they got out of hand. Hansel and Gretel was actually a true theme during those times and later.

There are so many other ways to raise children now. We have to teach future parents of these, so they will know better. Not spanking doesn't mean that no discipline was used, just something different. Sure it might take more work in the beginning, but the future will become much easier, especially in the teens. Teens who are being respected during their childhood have no reason to rebel.