I hate to sound cliche but beauty truly lies in the eye of the beholder. Some people are more shallow than others and will allow the physical realm to distract them from what is truly important. I feel bad for those people because they miss out on a whole lot of hidden beauty.

This may or may not be similar to what you are referring to, but my second toe is much longer than my big toe... in fact, my third toe is slightly longer than my big toe (kind of defeating the purpose and definition of having a "big" toe). I have scars on my body from multiple causes - not always my own. For example, my appendix scar. I occasionally struggle with acne and I have a a few moles hanging around on various parts of my body. Sometimes it's the oddities that attract people to you. Most of my significant others have found my "freak toe" to be cute. And some people call my moles "beauty marks." I've also had people tell me that if they were me they would never wear sandals. I used to try to hide my scars, but I don't any more. A scar is a sign of healing.

There was some one who came to a local church to speak who had no arms and no limbs, save a small shadow of what one might call a foot. He was born that way, but he was beautiful. His soul was beautiful and in my opinion his face and body was beautiful. He didn't need limbs - not to walk, not to preach, and not to be a beautiful person on the inside. And boy did that beauty shine through.

I have had patients who go to the bathroom through stomas on their abdomen, but you would never know unless you took their clothes off. I also had a patient once who had a staph infection in his penis that split it completely in half. We are not our limbs, our sexual characteristics, or any of that.

Focus on the things you have that are attractive. I don't believe any one is purely ugly (unless of course their soul is purely ugly... I've met very few people like that in my life though). I may have acne, I may have odd toes, and I may have moles or beauty marks, but I have awesome curly red hair. My body isn't perfect and I may not be very graceful or coordinated, but I use my body in any way that I can to make beautiful things (like draw or dance, etc). Besides, people have very strange fetishes. As I said before, your "flaw" just might be the one thing that a person is attracted to. It's what makes you unique and different. And in my opinion, if some one is willing to say you are unattractive/not worthwhile based on your looks, you don't need them anyway. Think of it as a filter... that's the way I view my scars any way. I know that my true friends will not be put off by my scars or why they are there.

I really hope this helps.