i don't have advice with this, but wanted to let you know you're certainly not alone- i have disfigurements that i think really ruin me and i'm curious to see what kind of answers you get.

i suppose, though, that you have to accept that "attractive" is something completely personal, and also not the most important thing. at least for me, it's easy to see past physical "flaws" in people, but i'll always be my own harshest critic and have trouble understanding how anyone can see past my own.