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Originally Posted by Christina86
  ((((((((((Hugs and prayers for you and your kitty)))))))))))))))
Losing a friend - even if it's a furry one - is always so hard. I'm sorry you're not getting the emotional support you deserve.
Can I ask you a question? Do you feel burdened when another person needs emotional support, or needs someone to be there to help them grieve? If you don't... then I don't think anyone else is going to feel "obligated" to listen to you and help. That's what a good friend does, someone who cares about you - even when you're feeling crappy and need someone to give you a hug and tell you that they care.
Do you have any close family you could talk to right now? Someone you could spend some time with to grieve this loss - somewhere you're supported? Dealing with an emotionally abusive spouse must be hard and draining - on top of being a caregiver for a sick child. That's not fair to you. Are you doing anything for YOU? Try to schedule "me time". Easier said than done... but do try.
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Thanks for your observations and posts. Good questions:
Your question about comforting others gave me pause. But in the end I would say, no, I do not feel burdened when others need comfort. If anything I have a hard time separating myself from other people's pains. So I get overloaded with the pain of others.
I always want to bear the burden of other people's problems. My own emotions are so complex and I have never really felt loved by anyone other than my children and a few friends. But even then, I do not trust the people other than my children.
I am very close to my youngest son (close to my oldest too, but in a different way). But I don't like to show him my pain because he has his own problems and even though he is almost an adult now (almost 21) I still believe in the mother/son relationship.
Even with that though he was very helpful yesterday and helped me through the day. He did offer that he thought I was maybe wrapping my upset over my other son's cancer into the declining health of my cat, so we chose not to euthanize her. While I would rather be absolutely sure that it is her time, I am still questioning myself.