You all fail to relize she was talking to another man for 3 months of our relationship and thats why she never talked to me about her problems, we are now broken up and i do HATE her because she used me the whole time we where together. You have no idea what she has done because she lies about everything and she only tells half truths. she negelcted to tell you she allways wishes for me to spend my money on her for just about anything such as food and rent and utilities. Wow, hate is such a strong word...I have never hated anyone, I can't, it's not in me. I think you're a bit harsh. In this world yes, it's hard to live off one one person's salary, but my wife and I do it, she works, I don't...but she doesn't complain that I eat, or have heat or electricity! You said just about anything, such as food and rent...if you are together, and you love her, it's not a sacrifice my friend, you take care of her because you can and you love her. Jobs ARE hard to find, I know when I was back in the states I couldn't even get a job at J.C. Penny's - I am a veteran of 12 years in IT, did many, many years in the US Air Force, have my MCSE...yet there was nothing for me. I assume you're basing the 1/2 truths on this Matt thing...more on that in a minute.

Our relationship failed because of her constant lies and failure to pay bills since we were supposed to split the bills but that never happened. theres a reason she lost her job or she basically quit her job. which ever truely happened. and the guy she was talking to 3 months well i found a message stateing "her throat was to sore to go down on him" on the monday i attended school after we had been back together for only 16 days maybe? Faliure to pay bills...you already know what's up with that. How did you "find" this message, privacy is something to be respected. I remember a post, someone saying this guy wouldn't leave her alone, she kept telling him to stop, but he wouldn't, then he got sexual in nature. She was to nice to say no, put herself in a bad situation yes, but she never planned on doing anything with him, nor did she do anything with this guy. I am pretty sure it's her. Do you really know the truth, did you talk to her about it, communicate? Or did you just assume the worst and that was that?

so you can talk down on me all you want she has used me and planned to keep using me as long as i would take her back... When i told her we would never get back together she was pissed. so thank you can some one please close this topic? or refur the users to her other post that tells half the truth on the story as well. From what I can tell, and no, I am not talking down to you...just telling it like it is, from seeing both sides...you're self centered and don't care about her. If you did, paying the bills wouldn't be a problem, things change, times get hard, and if you love someone you deal with those changes. You don't believe in her, and personally, if I were her, I wold be the one that wouldn't want you back. You don't communicate properly, you go off into some fantasy world and neglect her, and that's why your relationship fell apart, not because she had some guy after her whom she didn't want anything to do with...and again, did you talk to her about it? Or, did you just assume things?

You see what you want to see, and that becomes your truth, when it's not the whole truth, only bits and pieces of it. I think you may need to see a T, you seem depressed, angry and admittedly have an addiction problem. Ignoring someone is horrible, spending more time in a fantasy world than with the one you love (I've played EQ, EQ II, and LoTRO, I have been there) is cruel, when it takes over. Open your eyes Rekon. This is coming from someone outside the box, non-biased. I am not taking sides.