Echoes, You know perhaps this could be a way to learn to accept that whats happening in your therapy is enought, and that what other people describe is their experience?? that you dont have to rub out yours because you've seen someone elses? This is life, some marriages are different to my marriage, some mothers mother different to how I do it...its about finding what it is you are wanting within you and your world experience..you can never, ever know what else is truely going on for someone else...perhaps some need to post these positive things about handholding etc because they really feel theres not really anything else that concrete in their theraputic relationship? its about discovering our own experiences and joys. Its about having that self certainty, its not really about hand holding..