DocJohn,
After losing 2 men in my life and several dating fiascos I think I did what you are talking/thinking about. I just stopped dating or trying. I got pets to tend while I developed high hopes about this other guy I mentioned before. He didn't think of me the way I did about him. I felt this way about him for over 3 years! Think I'm strange? I even got the nerve to finally ask him out one day and his response took awhile to set in. He said he was seeing someone. I didn't really believe him. Then I knew in a way there was no chance but yet I did not want to fully believe it either. I had dreams of a life with him, too. I see now, even though I still have feelings for him, that it would not work--or would it? See how I am?

Anyway, the right person still may come along for you. I know of people who have been married maybe 8, 9 times. Wonder what keeps them trying, I say. I've never been married but had 2 actual serious long term relationships and lots of shorter relationships and many dates. Not sure if anyone is out there for me either at this point, though.

Sometimes life takes big turns and good things start to happen. I'm trying to hold onto those hopes and think it's a good idea to try to keep hope alive. Best wishes, CQ

<font color=purple>"If you free what is inside you,
it will make you free;
if you hold onto what is inside you
it will destroy you."

Zen Proverb
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