Hm, I don't appreciate the use of postings here without previous announcement and/or without author' s permission either.

Nevertheless, I agree with publishing this posting and here are two experiences that changed my attitude of Ts and a bit of my confidence in therapy at all. They are both about the end of therapy, and both about an unregular sudden end.

A female T started crying in front of me, when I told her that I thought that I made no progress in therapy because I was not able to do my therapeutical "homework" and could not see a concept in our attempts to overcome my inner blockades and my strong resistance against changing my bad habits (for example sleep hygiene, starting sports, adapting to daily schedules). I also had missed a few sessions and paid her for that according to the rules and we had talks about whether I am interested in therapy or not. I was, and I told her so, but I was not able to go along with behavioral therapy at that time.
When I cautiously told her that I did not see either progress or sense in this situation she began to cry. I felt very uneasy and apologized several times, but I also decided to stop meeting her.

Second story was a lot more embarrassing and irritating. After three weeks in a clinical therapy my T told me to my total surprise that this would be the last session because she had decided to end it. Asked for the reasons she told me I would not have cooperated enough and not having told her everything and thus deceived her, for example by keeping quiet about what she called a serious partnership conflict. Until that moment I never had been aware at all that I might have a partnership problem. I asked what I should do better, I told her that I was not ready to leave and I expressed my disagreement with her decision. Without the least effect.
So I went to her supervisor. First he denied to see me at all. Then, after one day of waiting and begging, he let me in his office half an hour before I had to leave the clinic. Asked what the reason and the purpose of all this was, he answered: "The therapeutical purpose of cancelling further treatment is to stop treatment." I asked what he meant by that. No response. I was stunned first. Then I became very angry.

I mailed a letter two weeks after this incident and applied for re-admission. The answer was an email where the clinic told me I better ought to stop further unwelcome "interventions". That was the point when I first seriously considered involving a lawyer.
Well, I recovered from that. Since then I never again was in therapy due to a general lack of trust. But I payed a high price, since this therapy was my last hope to regain enough strength to keep my job. After this I had to be put in early retirement. Quite helpful. Unforgettable. Should I mention that I was not very stable at the moment when I was kicked out?

I know I am not an easy patient due to my personality disorder. But I wonder if anyone deserves such a treatment. This happened 3 years ago. Until today I have no idea and no clue what caused this. An apply to see my patient's files had been denied.

Must I mention that I do not consider this the appropriate and by-the-book way of ending a therapy?