Yes, we've talked about the relationship. He is generally better about talking about it than I am. (Sometimes he says wonderful things about our relationship and I can get overwhelmed by the good feelings his comments engender in me.) But sometimes I talk about it too. Early on we did talk about trust, as that can come gradually in therapy as you get to know them and they "prove" themselves. I remember also a discussion about what I wanted from him. Very early on, like in our fifth session or so, I remember him asking me what I wanted from him, "love?" I remember totally not being able to answer that question! Too much, too intense. Today I am really proud of our relationship (2 and a half years later). We are very close and I am not scared of it. He says that what we have is "health." I can do "health"? Wow.

I am glad you raised the question with your T. It may be a hard conversation but could open pathways for growth. You can use the progress of your relationship with T as a kind of barometer of your progress in therapy and your outlook for future relationships. It is good to discuss it every so often. I will keep my fingers crossed for you that it goes well. Especially after 2 years together and a history of good work, your relationship is worth fighting for. If you have lost a connection, it is absolutely the right thing to discuss that with your T. Good luck.