I just wanted to add that every time we talk about "us" it feels good. I feel giddy happy sometimes when we talk about us because she often soothes fears I'm having, corrects misperceptions I'm having. She never makes me feel whiny, or defensive, or ungrateful. She's very sturdy and able to listen to my concerns. I often feel very relieved and reassured and more solidly connected with her after a talk, however brief, about "us"