I missed your post, sorry. The whole story isn't posted here. And over the last month or so, we have talked, she told me what she said was becuase she had had it with my anger and my contolling. It takes a lot to make her that mad, and when she is, she'll chew you up and spit you out, which is what she did. Yet again, by her own admission, what she said was out of anger, and really a, "You better stop this crap, or there will be serious consequences." She avoids confrontation because of her PTSD and hence didn't want to talk to me about it before this because she was afraid I'd get very angry, and want to fight about it (which woudn't have happened, but ... eh). The only issues needing solving was my anger and controlling, and I did the 180 that second...it's not that hard, once I knew the problems. Once we both understood why we were doing what we were doing, it was even easier to "fix" things.

Thanks again and God bless!