This is a super triggering feeling for me. And like you, I start to see changes in T's eyes and the negative transference starts and things spiral out of control...

Something I have learned about that kind of transference is that as painful and scary as it is (and it is SO painful and scary!) it can lead to a lot of healing....because our T's are NOT going to hurt us like people did in the past....so we can have these negative, scary feelings and they are met with acceptance and love and it's so deeply healing. It just takes time to get there, and the waiting and hoping and fearing is so gut-wrenching.

Hang in there, sweet minime!!