imho the discussions about "the relationship" are both the hardest and the most rewarding, especially when you manage to really resolve something. Most of the really important stuff in my therapy has been in discussions around the relationship itself but that doesn't mean I haven't chickened out over and over again when trying to raise issues about T in session. I think it takes a lot of bravery - saying it in the first place means that you have realised you have a right to input in the relationship rather than it being one-sided.