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Originally Posted by Shelle
In your original post you stated she had said she is not in love with you. you said you talked her into working things out. Not everyone stays in unhealthy domineering relationships either. If she loves you and is happy great, why are you so defensive about it if thats all true? I can be like your wife and say whatever you want to hear, I know what you want me to say, I was so wrong in my opinion your so right, forgive me lets get along now. Is that what makes things better in your world whether its true or not? Im extremely loving in my relationships and my idea of love isnt about controlling people, I help out when my loved ones need it and when I can see they don't want it I allow them to sort things out themselves. I don't try to force anyone to be what they are not. I told you take what you like of what I said and disregard the rest. Yet you are still hammering away at me for my opinion and trying to regard me personally as needing to learn how to love like you do. To me that is black & white thinking. There are all sorts of ideas behind why people suffer in relationships and why they are unhappy, I believe it is loving to allow a person to sort that out and not try to force them to do things they deep down inside don't feel committed to. If you feel your wife loves you and is committed then thats great you should be happy and move forward with that. My opinion is different then yours, staying in a marriage or relationship that makes everyone miserable would never be an option for me. It sounds like your very happy about your wife's change of heart, and if that is the case then my opinion should be a moot point for you. I wish you the best in sorting through your marriage problems. It sounds like things are getting better for you.  |
Ok, we may have gotten off on the wrong foot here...and I apologise. I didn't in anyway coerce my wife into saying anything, I can't even find it in my original post where I said that...
Also, lol, it's funny you should say that she is saying what I need to hear, because we discussed that very scenerio, I asked her to please not tell me what I want to hear, but what she wanted and needed to say. I am not forcing anything.
I know I have asked you a few times if you know anything about PTSD...and I will again? Do you? If not, you won't see the correlation between what happened, my Panic/Axiety Disorder, and the blow up. I have since fixed my problem in 5 sessions of therapy, and actually the anger issuse was fixed already.
I am not trying to make this a black or white thing, and yes you have your right to your opinion, but really, there's nothing that I wouldn't do for her, including leaving, if that's what she wanted, and she knows that. No one is miserable, no one is forced, and everything is fine. I guess I was defending this because I know what PTSD and my issuses have done to us, and if you haven't been through them, and don't know what's up, then really, how can you comment on it? I don't comment on things I don't know about, coz I can't, it would make no sense. Anyway, this issue is closed with me, my wife and I are fine.
You may choose what you want to belive, that's cool, but the truth is what I have said. I am done, I'm off this thread. Take care.