My point is that he realizes that you have to find the humor in life. Everything said tongue in cheek is not meant as an attack. A man I worked with lost his arm in an accident. He used to make really funny jokes about it. I refused to laugh, I thought it was disrespectful. We had a discussion about it one time and he said basically the same thing Carlos says about the mentally challanged... He would rather me see him as a person and notice that he happens to be missing an arm rather than a disabled person. According to him, the only thing he can't do is clap.