nice post, luce.

i dont think of myself as a survivor or a victim either. i think that to apply either to myself puts undue emphasis on that aspect of my life. i was also a good student, friend, daughter etc but don't label myself any of those things. being a good student has had a far greater impact on where i am now than being a victim/survivor ever did.

but that's all intellectual. i think before i even think all the above thoughts - just hearing those words applied to me, by someone like a T or a friend - it just makes my skin crawl. i don't know why.