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Originally Posted by chaotic13
for the last two sessions I've felt like I've been telling my T stuff and she is just not "getting" where I am. As I was reflecting on that after the last session, it make me really ask myself:"Am I really saying, out loud what is running through my head? Am I using vague general statements and assuming that she knows what I mean? Am I asking her to make accurate inferences, when I haven't provided enough specific information?"
1) I'm the one who knows what thoughts or topics I tend to avoid. If I really want her help I need to have the guts to say, "I remember this, and it really bothers me."
2) I should just focus my energy on what things are bothering me "TODAY" in the here and now. Then if it seems like it is related to an incident in the past... I can go back and fill in the gaps, explore, and verbally discuss how it may be affecting me.
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Chaotic, I like
#1 and #2 up there ^. This is what I did to get better and it worked well.
About being understood, it takes a lot of explaining for someone to understand where you are coming from. Our experiences are so different that it is really up to you to make yourself understood. I guess you have some things that are holding you back from doing this?
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Originally Posted by chaotic13
it is that my brain just constantly runs through stuff over and over again from different perspectives considering different outcomes.
Meanwhile, LIFE is passing me by.
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Do you think that you might want to just handle all of this stuff by yourself in your head because it is hard to trust?