Thank you for the replies....and insight.
I realize I need to back off, and let her come to the decision on what she wants....and i in no way mean to abandon. We have very busy lives, and i will continue to do the thing that need to be done, and be here for her....but I believe I have made my intentions and feelings heard, and repeating them is not going to do any good.

My wife is a wonderful person, full of love and warmth,and i truly feel wants things to get better, but,as I am, is not sure how to get there, and maybe is afraid, or too proud, or something, that keeps her from seeking help.
One of the things I have said to her in regards to counseling, when she downplays it, doing nothing has not helped, and that we need help...professional help...and that I do not think we can do it alone.

Again, thanks for the support.