My boyfriend is well aware of my feelings. After being warned by a few people (one of whom was my mom) to squelch the urge to let it be known that I have a HUGE issue with what is going on, I sat down with my boyfriend and spilled my guts. This was in November. From the beginning, he agreed that his son was out of control. Told me he would take care of it, and asked me to please not verbalize my feelings as it would only cause problems. I kept quiet and hoped for the best.

Well, now it's MARCH and the house is as trashed as ever. Maybe worse. I clean around here, but I'm lucky if it lasts for a day. I tried the whole "not gonna clean up after anyone, I'm not a maid" thing and I ended up going crazy. (And I'm not a neatnik - I'm just not a slob.) My boyfriend and I have actually been arguing about this, which is unusual for us. Despite the fact that I have Asperger's syndrome and can be, um, difficult to deal with, we have never had problems that couldn't be solved by having a frank discussion. He is generally very patient with me, and understanding, and I am very grateful for that. And I have tried to bear that in mind when I get upset about the latest disaster in the house.

But it's not working anymore. I have come to greatly resent my boyfriend's son, and to some degree, I have begun to resent my boyfriend, too, because he isn't doing anything about this situation, like he said he would. He claims to be as disgusted with his son's behavior as I am, but until last week, never once DID anything to punish him. I am at the end of my rope, to the point that I don't even want to be around his son anymore. His behavior is SO wrong, and so disgusting, and my boyfriend knows how much it bothers me, not to mention his younger son, who he has joint custody of. WHY isn't he doing more? Am I missing something here?

This has turned into a total rant... Sorry...