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Ouch - I'm sorry this is so painful.

What deli said does make sense.....that often when clients take a "break" they don't come back...perhaps this is her fear, and why she's trying to settle the balance with you. It does feel abrupt and impersonal, though, and I'm sure that hurts

The times I have felt the MOST like I want to leave T - or at least "take a break" - have been the times I have needed to go SEE HIM IN PERSON the most. During our biggest rupture, I was SO angry, and sent him an e-mail saying I was taking a break and may or may not come back. There were a lot of bad feelings flying around - mostly from me to him. He finally said (in an uncharacteristically firm manner) "I will not discuss this with you over e-mail. If you want to talk, I am available at 4:30 and will call you. Let me know". We did end up talking on the phone, and I went for an appointment the next day. That was months and months ago, and we are still going strong, although for a minute there, I thought it was as good as over. I really REALLY believe that as hard as it is, these sorts of things (breaks, feeling unsupported, etc) need to be addressed face to face if we are going to keep moving forward.

Like someone else said, if she is not giving you what you need anymore, maybe it is time to move on. OR maybe this is just a bump in the therapy relationship, and it will be worked out and you and she will grow together.

((((((((((((((((((((((((((krazibean))))))))))))))))))))))))) Sending LOTS of hugs - I know how painful this is...