I think we want to feel... distinct in some way. Yeah, special too, but distinct and not just "the 4:00". lol

And I hate those questions/comments too most of the time (sometimes they are fun!) but mostly what I hate about them is that the focus I've tried to place on T is turned back around to me when she does that. We have talked about how frustrating that is, so now I can huff and pout in exaggeration when she does that and then sometimes we both laugh.

I think you are really brave to tell him exactly what you'd want to hear!