Sorry this isn't much consolation, at least you weren't married for 23-24 yrs. and found out the person you trusted was foolong around with their co-worker, which caused you to lose it, then be diagnosed as bipolar and be put on meds that caused you to gain 30+ lbs. and now have a permanent record of being mentally ill. Sorry I just went off, but I am still working through this with therapy, and meds,.etc. It's been 2 years of lots of "hard" work, things are coming along with us but I still have my moments of wondering why. . . Things do work out for the best, even if that means a new relationship, my brother is in his 3rd marriage and it seems like it is for keeps Don't blame yourself, that is what I heard in therapy. . . Maybe it is a time that both of you needed to move on. I hope in time you will find what you are looking for and need. Take care Doc John
"darkeyes"