Em, you know as children until we can learn to value and adore ourselfs we need to have this done for us, ie our caregivers and if thats done naturally we as we grow learn to internlise that and love ourselfs, I remember once as a child saying to my mother, "am I pretty"? she replied "Pretty? No I wouldn't say that, perhaps plain", and that burning twist of shame I felt for even contemplating asking this question then turned septic...of course we want to be mirrored positively in someones eyes, someone whom we have grown to feel is important ...its a childs way of getting the "parent" to talk about them, its a natural part of healthy ego development, but as an adult we feel we "Should" be beyond that, well we're not and theres nowt wrong with wanting it...