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Old Mar 12, 2009, 10:22 AM
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Hello Lifelesstraveled, hope this helps;

WISEMIND:

-a blended balance of your emotion mind and your reasonable mind
-when you are aware of what emotions you are experiencing, but can also access the knowledge, facts and logic of your Reasonable Mind
-using both your gut and your wisdom to guide your actions
-listening and hearing to what others are saying
-responding not reacting, to painful emotions
-the ability to look ahead at the possible consequences of your decisions
-being able to recognize, acknowledge and accept both negative and positive emotions
-choosing how you are going to behave in any given situation without fear of losing control, dissociating, doing something you will later regret
-accepting your own vulnerabilities and that you may make mistakes
-responding to an ever changing world and not controlling it
-thinking and feeling at the same time <<< feel badly for men with BPD, since it is a proven fact that men cannot think and feel at the same time....:S (sorry had to add it)

WISE MIND

helps you to focus on one thing in the moment and decrease chatter about past experiences or worries about the future. You are able to bring yourself to the moment, focusing in on facts and feelings.

DBT Skills Group - Module 1-Week 1- Core Mindfulness Skills
Thanks for this! After reading through the explanation I realized that i have already been doing some of this on my own, before my T even mentioned it to me. I dont do it ALL the time, but I find myself in certain situations at work that get me upset and part of me wants to give my boss a piece of my mind and a few choice words I wont put here. i have to tell myself, "LLT, what are the consequences of this if you do? Yes you are pissed BUT if you do act out it will only make things worse. So yes you are upset, it's okay to be--your boss is a dim-wit, but you cant help that..."

Thanks!
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