Hi Nambie,
just wanted to see how you're doing. I would agree with the one point that children need to understand how to play appropriately with adults. Your husband shouldn't be playing that way with her being 11. I'm a Mom myself of 2 girls 7 and 11 yrs. and I've told them what body parts are off limits. My 11 yr. old is a brown belt in karate and is prepared to handle anyone who approaches her inappropriatly.
When I was 13 yrs. old while playing lawn darts I remember my brother in-law grabbing my breasts. Another time after babysitting his son, he grabbed me and tried to kiss me. Lucky for me I escaped. So I promised when I had my girls that I would teach them how to protect themselves.
I hope you and your children are okay. Best regards,
Lynn