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Originally Posted by sunrise
Yes, that's what we do. I think it really appeals to my T because he is a family systems therapist, so he sees the inner family work as very similar.
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that makes total sense.
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For instance, some trouble I was happening with an adult male ego state was something we worked on in therapy, and T tried to help us live in harmony and each value the role the other played, just like he would with a real family.
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is integration not considered the goal now? i am hearing the word "harmonizing" as i'm reading about this and i wonder if different models have different goals. i believe when i did inner healing (the spiritual version of parts work) the goal was integration. has that changed?
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You are right, reflection, it is totally trippy!
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i'm glad i'm not the only one who thinks so!
earthmama, i may not be a beach bum, but i am a california girl so i do say things like trippy and groovy on occasion.
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It is also quite amazing the things the ego states can tell me themselves, and I learn things about myself I never knew and it makes me almost mad when I find out some of them know stuff I don't. Since really, I am the head honcho, I should know everything, and when I find out I don't, it can rattle me. I remember once this male was talking to T (via me) and kept referring to me in the third person, and that was ANNOYING as h*ll. Like excuse me, I'm sitting right here, I'm not invisible d*mn it! How dare you GUYS talk over my head? Sometimes T has even shushed me because he wanted to talk just with the male and not also get my interjected comments.
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reflection, how did you do the voice dialog? Did your ego state talk directly to T or use you as the go between? With me, I am the go between. T will ask the ego state a question. The ego state answers to me, and then I pass on the answer to T ("he said that he blah blah blah"). My ego states never speak directly to anyone but me. The words that come out of my mouth are always "he/she said that...", never "I am..."
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i did it just like you did as the go-between. but near the end i think i responded directly in the other ego state/child. sunny, i took a brief look at the page you linked on ego states. were you hypnotized when you did your work? i wasn't. we just jumped right into it but being familiar with the concepts really helped me do it.
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I hope you will write more about what you are doing with your inner family. I find it so interesting, but bewildering too, and would really like to hear how your inner family therapy goes.
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i find this fascinating and very helpful but yes quite bewildering too. i'm not really sure what the next step in this is or if t will want to do this type of therapy often with me or what.
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So is her function to worry about you and look out for you? The vacation idea is great! Who knows, it might help.
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i think she is like a worried parent which is just how my sister acted irl. but she caused me all kinds of problems so i'm not sure i want an internal one. lol.