HMMMMMM. I'm not quite sure if I totally agree. I think as a child were not quite sure how to fit in or to come right out an say, Choose Me, Love Me.

As an adult, we deal with it differently, I agree with you there. I'm not quite sure that because we didnt have certain things in childhood doesnt mean we cant have them as adults. At least I hope not. I mean we cant go back in time and fill the void but I beleive if we can accept certain things from childhood, perhaps we can learn to change it in adulthood.
For instance, I recently confronted my mother about my feelings of abandonment and lonliness as a child. I explained to her that not having her at home, bringing different men home and not being there for me physically and emotionally was very, very hurtful to me and explained that because of her neglect, my childhood was robbed from me. Do I think, I can ever get that back? No. But I do believe that with Therapy, and keeping the communication open with my mother we can repair our relationship and start from today. At least I am hoping it can be that way. I also feel that loving yourself, knowing yourself and working on low self esteem is a big part of it too. If you dont have inner love and acceptance for yourself that you will constantly be looking for in other ways. I am currently working on this in therapy so I cant tell you any more on that.
I think this does raise a very interesting question and I am gald you asked it. I hope I didnt go off on a tangen and answered the question correctly. Thanks Myzen. Take care of yourself.