Trying to find the good in my relationship. I am a 25 yr old girl currently pursuing a degree in nursing. My BF is 34 with no kids. I don't know how it works, but we are complete opposites. I am very outgoing, bubbly and love to meet new people. Because of this I have a lot of friends. He on the other hand, does not have 1 friend outside of work. His life revolves around going to work, coming home and watching TV. He likes to isolate and be socially withdrawn, he says that is because of his job (he is a casino host). Which I understood in the beginning, but now I think it is starting to affect our relationship.

Although I know that he loves me, he is not affectionate at all, nor does he ever compliment me. To make a long story short, he wasn't raised with affection. Both his mother and stepfather are extremely critical and unaffectionate towards each other. His stepfather taught him to never cry or show emotion. Aside from when he is returning an "i love you" (once i have already said it) they only other way for him to express how he feels is when we make love.

THATS WHERE THE PROBLEM LIES. I am always the one to initiate sex. I always have to get him stimulated, and when we have sex it is always the way that he wants it. I don't know what it feels like to be wanted or touched. I cannot tell you how agonizing it is to lay next to someone night after night and not be touched, caressed or fondled. It has been like this for about a year. When I brong it up sometimes he agrees with me and things get better but only for a short time. He masturbates everyday to internet pornography, I have caught him on numerous occasions, even in the middle of the night while I am upstairs!

I don't even know if this relationship is worth continuing. HE THINKS I AM CRAZY AND HE DOES NOT HAVE A PROBLEM.

PLEASE PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME. I AM IN TEARS AS I m writing this.