people are dense by nature.

ive just got to the point where, instead of thinking that these people are stupid, thinking that us lot who can empathise must have something that they dont have, and that were intelligent emotionally.

because there seems to be the majority who just dont GET it.

empathy is in short supply, just like common sense. bloody annoying i know. its like, for example:

my friend vicki and i are close. because, i get her, and she gets me. we just KNOW when somethings wrong. but thats because we put ourselves in each others positions. noone else notices. she is always putting on a smile, to make believe shes ok, cuz its easier. but i seem to be the only person who notices, cept beav i spose but he thinks shes a little odd and doesnt know what to do with her. theyre perfectly civil but just clash kinda. yesterday, i asked her how she was. she said 'ill be ok' cheery voice as usual, and i called her a liar. cuz she wasnt. she said she was gonna be ok cuz she had a plan, and it was a fantastic plan.

now this intrigued me because had it been a plan i approved of she wouldnt have resisted telling me so much. so, me being me, i prodded her till she gave me a vague idea. she eventually said, she was planning on moving in with sunshine and her mummy.

now. firstly, her 'mummy,' that she was referring to isnt her real mum, its her aunt. who died a while ago in a horseriding accident.

sunshine, was her friend with a psychotic disorder of some kind, she comitted suicide last year.

now, many people know about sunshine, and quite a few people know about her aunt, but..... how they didnt match that up is crazy? isnt it? are they dense? anyone else would have left it at, 'ill be fine,' or 'i have a fantastic plan.'
her friends dont seem to have a clue... but i do, i dont get it. not at all.

(incedentally, we... had a chat. i told her i wasnt letting her go, because i'd miss her. the funniest bit was there were others around, and they didnt notice anything was wrong. i was even crying.)

it did make me lol tho, cuz i was hugging her. lots. and all of the idiots who are nearby our corner were calling us lesbians. ignorance to the extreme.

sorry i kinda waffled.