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Old Mar 13, 2009, 05:44 AM
Anonymous29412
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(((((((((((((((TMac)))))))))))))))))))

I agree that it's best to go, because if you avoid going once, it will be easier to avoid going again, and before you know it, you might be avoiding therapy altogether!!

I did have something fairly significant happen early in my therapy relationship (like 2 months in) and I did bring it to T, even though it was hard, and tied into past stuff that we hadn't really talked about yet. He handled it well, and it helped build my trust in him.

But, if you are not ready to talk about the past, you don't have to. I am JUST NOW feeling safe enough to talk about childhood stuff, after 16 months of twice-a-week therapy (trust issues, anyone?! lol). We've talked about and worked through other trauma stuff, but the childhood stuff had to wait until now.

You will be ready when you are ready. If it is eating at you, maybe talking a little bit about it now will make you feel better. Or you can tell her you are feeling upset about something, but don't feel comfortable talking about it yet, and she can help you with your feelings.

There is NO timetable for therapy. Just because the the first two sessions are over, it doesn't mean you *have*to dive into all sorts of hard stuff. I understand feeling that way, because I did "report" all of my hard stuff to T early in therapy...I didn't understand therapy at all, and figured that was what I HAD to do. After all of that "reporting" we worked on the relationship for a LONG time before I was really able to do the emotional work around the (bits of) stories I had told him.

(((((((((((((((((((((TMac)))))))))))))))))))))))) Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just go, and know that YOU are in charge of your therapy. You can tell her as much or as little as you want and need to.