((((Sherina, rosie, et al...)))) You all seem such wonderful women and I'm sorry about what your coping with.It's not fair to be treated badly. Yes, it's a difficult situation when kids are between. But don't hesitate to make decisions when they finally click in. Your children, even though small, will know better when they are adults. I know what I mean since my mother put up with my father 25 yrs with his psychological abuse. She felt lost, undecided, scared, insecure and started to drink alclohol.

She moved from one country to another at the age of 37 and started over, still with my father at her side. She maintained us, my brother and I, with a lot of effort. She retook her studies and at the present day she is a nurse. One day, my father got into a fight with my mother's brother, my uncle, and she told my father to move out, that he doesn't have any rights to mistreat anybody. Was this painful to us? Yes, very much. It had affected me deeply seeing over the years how my mother was suffering.

Well, at the present day I feel very proud of my mother and wish i had her strength. After she left my father she stopped the alcohol abuse. she is a new independent person. Has she lost her time? No, never think this. It had to be what it had to be. And believe me it is never late to make up anything you want in life. You are all not alone, and I am sure of whatever comes out of your decisions will benefit you and by the way benefit your children.

Children are amazing and sense many things. i personally think that the most important influence in their life can be there mother, and of course their father, but in a different way. I f my mother feels bad, i feel bad; if she is sad I always try to be there for her; I feel very connected to her. Today I can say that i love her and that i feel very proud of her. Do not hesitate saving yourself because this is the way that you will also save your children.. Rap