DocJohn, I'm so sorry to hear about the pain you are going through...whenever a relationship ends, it is painful, and for it to come unexpectedly only makes it more so. I wish I had some great advice like some of the others here have had, but I'm so lousy at making relationships last that about all I'd be able to say is, "whatever you do, don't do anything like mj!"

The one thing I can say with certainty, though, is that you never run out of chances to get it right. I know that right now, your thoughts are all on this relationship, but I firmly believe that there is someone out there for everyone...it just takes some of us longer to find our someone.

Take care,
mj