So, this morning I was kind of missing T, and since the weekend is coming up (and I DO try to give the man the weekend off LOL) I wanted just a little bit of connection with him. I only felt anxious about it for a minute and then I just picked up the phone and left him a message and told him I just needed a little something to connect - he could leave a message about how boring his training was (he's in a training) or WHATEVER - just something.

So, he left me a message on his way home from training...part of what he said is:

"I'm glad you could reach out and say what you needed, and it sounds like it was to connect...(blah blah blah)....It's certainly okay to reach out, particularly when you know what you need....(blah blah blah)"

It was a cheerful, friendly message, and it really was just to connect and that was okay.

I thought about how so many of us on the board don't know if it's okay to reach out, to ask for a call....how we think we're being "good" if we don't call and "bad" if we ask for help...and T's message just reinforced that it is OKAY to ask for things. He wasn't angry, or irritated...if anything, he was proud that I had asked for what I needed without it being a huge deal.

I wasn't in crisis, or even upset. Just missing T and needing a little bit of connection.

SO! For all of us that fret over these things (me included!) I just wanted to post this as a little bit of hope and reassurance