Sunnye, I can relate. I too hate conflict and the resulting guilt after I feel like I've let someone down, or not lived up to a standard 'expectation.'

I also avoid tasks that I'm afraid I won't be able to handle because I don't know how to do them, or because they're too daunting to even start. (I was 4 years behind in filing my taxes a few years back. I finally got caught up and vowed I would never let it happen again. A couple of years later, I got behind again! I hate that part of me!

Anyway, I don't have any suggestions since I haven't figured out how to deal with it myself, but wanted to let you know you aren't alone.

Hugs,

MHH