EarthMama, I think you are incredibly fortunate to have a T who allows this contact and reconnection inbetween appointments. I do love reading about your experiences with your T, as they seem so healing and so responsive to your individual needs.

However, I think most T's don't allow that kind of contact between appointments. I guess I am just concerned that some people might use your experiences as the 'standard' and then feel they are somehow faulty or unworthy if their own experiences with their Ts don't match up the same.

Whatever a T's philosophy and rules about touching, emailing and phone calls are, it is never a reflection of an individual client's worth or deservingness (is that a word??!)... it is simply the way that particular T does therapy. For some on the board, reaching out between appointments, especially on a regular basis, isn't okay with their T. Some T's don't want it, don't encourage it, and don't respond favorably when it happens.

Sigh. Sad, but true.