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Old May 09, 2005, 08:17 PM
Kalamity Kalamity is offline
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Sorry for the delay in replying. I've been struggling and ... *shrug*

Someone asked a question. I gave an answer. They don't like my answer so they try to make out like I said something wrong. I try to apologize if I was not clear. Somewhere I stupidly comment on something about myself to which the person implies that I'm a liar. I take it to PM to try and discuss it but they ignore what I state and basically want me to prove myself. I decide I'm done with their desire to label me a liar. I turn off my PM box. Guess what they do next. They POST the matter publically. They ask everyone to answer the question that I was supposed to answer and chose not to - a question better left to professionals to answer.

To me, that person was not only calling me a liar but trying to demonstrate to everyone else that I'm a liar. They were trying to humiliate me. And yes, it hurts. It hurts deep that anyone can be so overconcerned with something I say that they have to seek to publicly defame and humiliate me. I am not a liar. My demeanor betrays me. My mental health betrays me. My vocabulary betrays me. They never even considered that I might not even feel confident enough to believe it myself, that maybe I haven't questioned professionals about the very thing myself. I'm not a liar. No matter how much I doubt myself, I am NOT a liar.

Sorry.

W2F - I'm actually taking an Interpersonal Communications class when classes start up again in the fall. I chose it for the needed credit and because I know that of the choices that one will be of most benefit to me personally.

Angel - I've always wanted a sister that wasn't evil, good to know I have one.

Chris - what you don't get is that I have no husband or family, family friends, spouses friends, friends of my own. My only social interactions are online and they fail miserably. I did not chose for someone to call me a liar because they don't want me to be what I am. I did not chose to be called stupid by more experienced photographers. I do not chose to have people ignore me and leave me. In four years no one has chosen to be my friend and I have had no choice in who is or isn't my friend. There is no to talk to on the phone. There is no one to write to. There is no one to email. My life is devoid of companionship and friendship. I see no upside to spending my life forever alone. I do not mean to diminish your own issue, I just don't see it as being all that similar. I have now only repeated what I have stated before - will you understand it this time or will chose to dismiss me as being no good?

Sorry again. Thank you so much for the replies.