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Originally Posted by Lynn_
This will probably end up touching on more than just self-esteem issues, but it seemed the most appropriate place to start.
First of all I'm a twenty year-old female currently living in Canada. I'm in my second year of college and enrolled in a Corrections program. It's not what I want to do with my life at all. I just figured it might help build up my confidence, and because I was too afraid to take a completely different program all because I didn't want to have to start all over again, not knowing anyone and sitting by myself everyday.
You see it's very difficult for me to make friends, because I put myself down before I even try to talk to people. 'Oh, they'll think I'm weird. I can't just go up and say 'hi' randomly. Who does that?' I just wouldn't know how to start a conversation out of the blue without feeling awkward. I hate being alone. And I envy people who are popular, but why does it feel so difficult to put myself out there and try to make friends? It doesn't help that I'm so petite for my age. Being short makes me feel like people don't take me seriously.
Also, I'm constantly wondering how some people have so much talent and know exactly what they want to do with their future. There's not one talent I can say that I have or that I'm confident in. I don't even have my driver's license yet because I feel like I'll never pass the tests or that I'm sure to get into an accident. I don't have confidence in myself or the ability to learn. Lastly, I can't go out with some of the girls from work .. because I feel very ugly next to them. I do like attention, but when I'm with them it's just all the more obvious I'm second-rate in comparison. I feel like there's nothing desirable about me at all. It doesn't help I've never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship. It just makes me wonder what's wrong with me.
How can I learn to be happy and confident?
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((((((((((Lynn)))))))))))
It hard not to compare yourself to otheres - but you know - finding it hard to start a conversation with foreign people doesn`t mean that something is wrong with you, and i do know about many girls your age that never had a boyfriend. and as to driving license - I am almost 24 and still don`t have it!
I think it is natural ot feel the same you feel when you are new in a plcae - your confidance will show more on familiar occations.
Maybe try to say "hello whats up?" to a person you know PLAN what to say before you say it, and even if you stop talkin entirely - try the next morning. if you odn`t sotp somehting will turn out1 when people see you are trying to get oround - the nicer ones won`t push you away but invite you to join them! it happenes. Believe me