((((((((earthmama))))))))
First, thank you for your original post- because I do think it is reassuring for those of us who are worried that we are going to be shamed by our T's for reaching out to read the experiences of those who have tried this and had a good outcome.
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Originally Posted by earthmama
Good points, Luce and everyone 
You're right...some T's don't allow contact between sessions, and obviously this scenario wouldn't work there.... I'm sorry I didn't think of that and say that.
I feel kind of guilty for my post now....it seemed like there was a lot of anxiety floating around about "should I call my T", and I guess I wanted PEOPLE WHO HAVE T'S THAT ALLOW IT to know that yeah, it's really okay.
Sorry if I made anyone feel bad. AGAIN. 
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Second- You do not owe anyone an apology. Your unique experience in T is your unique experience in T. Nothing more and nothing less. Your T sounds pretty darn fantastic and a great fit for you. That is what I see in your posts. And on that note my T is a great fit for me and what I need...And it seems to me that most people here have a good fit with their T's and get what they need whatever it is that need may be.
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Originally Posted by chaotic13
I emailed my T a lot last week when I was, as Miss C so accurately described,flooding. My T has not set strict boundaries with me even though I had repeatedly asked for them. For a long time I fretted over when to email and when not to. I'm getting a little better at not fretting too long. At this point I figure if I am crossing a boundary, she has a responsibility to tell me. She is not like others in my life who don't have the ability to tell people when they are asking too much of them. I've repeatedly asked her to indentify the boundaries so I can play by her rules. Instead much to my discomfort, she seems to have let me set them. Now its her responsibility to say when enough is enough.
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My T is much like Chaotic's where I have set the boundaries for things. I have set a lot of boundaries within the room. And I have set the "contact" boundaries too. So far, I have called mostly to reach out when I have been in complete freakout. I have called when I wanted to quit couples therapy, when I could not deal with my parents, when I have been in such an emotional state that I probably needed a session and didn't want to come in, when I did not want her and the reiki person to chat about me (this did come up!), and more recently when put my resignation in at my job, and this week just to check in. Most of these could be catagorized as crisis-ish but a couple were not.
In the last 4 months I have needed more support in a therapeutic way and that need has been met in the way of my T allowing for additional sessions. She also has let me cancel and reschedule a bazillion times (especially in my ambivellant phase) and has never charged me for this.
She is kind and fair and resonable and a good fit. Just as your T is for you.
earthmama