A reply to another message got me thinking about boundaries.

I wonder how much we are setting them and how much our therapists are setting them? I get the feeling that there are general therapy boundaries that serve as a general framework for all client/T relationships. But every client really is different.. so every set of boundaries must be different too, right? Do you wonder if your boundaries with your T are the same as the ones with their other clients? Do you feel like T set them or like you set them? Are your boundaries clear cut and defined?

I know that for almost a year I never contacted T out of session and didn't even know if I was allowed to. After I had an urgent situation I asked her about contact outside of session and since then it's usually been ok. And when I was in crisis, she made herself highly available for me. I know I'm needy, but I don't think I'm her neediest client. I get the feeling that Ts don't always make their boundaries clear because they want to wait and see what you need.

Thoughts?

mawl