Weirdly, I don't have a problem (anymore) calling T, leaving a message and asking for a message (his number goes straight to voice mail)....but asking for a call (like where I would pick up the phone and we would talk) is a huge, giant deal and I RARELY do it. I hate talking to him on the phone. The times I have asked for a call, it's actually been helpful - but it still makes me uncomfortable and like I'm taking up way too much of his time.