pdoc never clearly set boundaries in the first session, but after a few months i think it clicked for him and he said "you know, you're allowed to call me between sessions if you're in trouble". so i have called a few times when i've been struggling and needing a bit of advice.

recently he gave me his mobile number so i can get him while he's at home/on hols etc. he told me he doesn't give his mobile to everyone, only those he knows who will respect it. so i guess in that sense, i know he has different boundaries for different clients.

atm, i think he is leaving it up to me to set boundaries. i am allowed to contact him whenever, see him wherever (at his private practice or at the hospital he works at), i decide when i want appts or not. so i guess initially, pdoc set the boundaries, but now it's more like we negotiate them together.

with my old T - he had some very firm boundaries that i know he would have kept the same for every client, regardless of varying needs. his mobile went off at 7pm. he would not answer emails on the weekends. with those kinds of rules i don't think there were too many other boundaries to negotiate between us. they were definitely stipulated by him.