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Originally Posted by mightaswelllive
I don't know how I'd feel about seeing current T in public? I'm a psych student so I'm actually a little surprised I've never seen her out of practice before? I did once see one of my professors at her practice and THAT was awkward.
I've seen other T's from the practice in public before and it's weird. Once I saw one with his children at the movies. Another time I saw one at my university and that gave me a panic attack - I didn't make it to class. What the hell was that about?
My old T knew my parents in high school and they still run into each other and my parents try to talk to her about me. She doesn't give them any information but it really bothers me that they go up to her - even if they did know her first.
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My T and I have no boundary issues whatsoever, but then boundary violation issues have never been my problem or something we needed to discuss. We are both on par at the same level on this issue.
Interesting in that while I haven't seen my T in public ever, we know a lot of the same people (NOT FRIENDS--professionals and acquaintances) and our lives intersect in a lot of ways like that. In my case, knowing a lot of the same people at various levels (once again, NOT FRIENDS as that would NOT be okay), has been VERY helpful to me. I wish I could go into the specifics of why it has been helpful, but suffice it to say that there are certain things I do not have to explain in detail, and when I seek advice on a certain complex situation that can be VERY HELPFUL when I don't have to spend time making him understand. It's all very strange because I've never known anybody in a situation like that where we cross-sect each other's lives on a level like this. It means a lot to me that I can be so lucky.
I don't know how I would feel if I saw my T in public. I don't think I would feel scared or embarrassed or whatever, but you never know. I would feel more like I needed to protect the T relationship, and I wouldn't want to make HIM feel uncomfortable (although I don't think he would feel uncomfortable). I don't think I would talk to him beyond to say HI or something simple, and definitely not if he didn't see me and had his family with him. I wouldn't go out of my way to say hi if he didn't see me. I think even if he had his family with him if he saw me and we locked eyes or something he would say "HI" briefly or acknowledge my presence, but that's not a violation of ethics if he does. He has very good boundaries, and is very polite and kind and respectful.