Since I agree with what others have said, I won't repeat their suggestions, but add to them:

Regarding the bra, you might ask a lingerie store for a fitting, and suggestions on the right bra for you. You'll get measured to find the exact right size for you, and they'll help you find a bra that suits your shape and makes you happy.

I read a couple of feminist magazines, BUST and B**** that have all types of women featured in them, from girly girls to rougher, tomboy types. You might look for them in your local bookstore, or check their websites (http://www.bust.com/, and I don't know if I can put the url for the other site here, since it is a curse word, but just do a search for "B**** magazine" with the word spelled out). It just helps to know feminine comes in many flavors.