His reaction seems pretty drastic....

I couldn't help but think about what is going through the 11 year olds mind at the moment. Nambie, how have you explained the crazyiness going on between you and your H to your kids at the moment? I think it would be hard to be your daughter, knowing that after dad played with her, mom and dad had a big blow up, and are now separating. Do you think she has any clue what is going on?

Unfortunately at 11, I don't think I would have been totally clueless about dad's semi.I know my childhood was different. If she has had at the very least, the Growth and Development lecture in school,...she is likely questioning things. I would never have talked about it, but I would have been aware of it, and internally freaking out.

(((Nambie))) very difficult situation. I think you were right to question H about this. Your kids safety comes first.