I think I just need her to keep her big boundaries like she promised she would do. I have hurt by my other T's with their relaxed boundaries, unethical boundaries with one.

A few weeks ago she had to leave out of town for a funeral and had to cancel appointments. Well she sent the same letter to everyone, only changed the names of who it was going to. Well in this letter she told me where her home town was and she had a grandma that died. Then also the week she came back she said something about her working for a dog shelter when I mentioned my puppy.

Well It is just too much info for me. In the old days of therapy, my other T's disclosed too much, and it hurt me. She told me she wouldn't tell me about her, and she did. I told her about it and I read her response as that T's do make mistakes. Plus her supervisor said something about her letter cancellation being grist for the mill if some clients have a problem with the info. I know she was hurting when her grandma died, and just needed to cancel without much hassle, but she disclosed too much info for me, and she told me she wouldn't do that. And that grist for the mill statement I hate. It is like she is going to do what she wants, and if problems arise because of it, than i just have to work it out. Well I have had enough grist for mill to grind in my life, I don't need it from my T too. I told her this in my email.

This makes me scared that she will hurt me or continue disclosing stuff that takes the focus off from me and my issues in the session.

I know it is my issue, but after my trust has been abused (she knows this) I just wish she would be more careful with me. She told me she would. I just want to hold her to that so I can trust her that she won't hurt me.